The Secrets of Successful Hot Seating – How To Be Somebody Else
How To Be Somebody Else
The Secrets of Successful Hot Seating
by Francine Kaye
Do you remember the TV programme Stars in Their Eyes? The one where celebrities’ and ‘civilians’ turned themselves into their favorite popstar? They would come on dressed as themselves and announce to the presenter “Today Matthew I am going to be…….” And then they’d disappear behind the curtain only to return as someone else entirely.
Sometimes they were so fabulous you almost couldn’t tell them from the real thing.
When you Hot Seat for another Athena Lady your mission is to BE that member.
Your job is NOT to just stand there and stumble over the words written on a piece of paper that goes on for longer than one minute.
Your job is to embody the person you are being.
Get right inside their services and present them in a way that is just as fabulous as if the member was standing there herself.
Being asked or invited to Hot Seat is a privilege and an honor.
It’s not about a free lunch and another opportunity to do your own networking.
You are being trusted with representing a fellow member.
And here’s something else to remember. Your own reputation is on the line here. If you cannot represent another member with creativity, passion and positive regard, how can we trust you to represent us to your network?
If we cannot hear your enthusiasm and belief in what someone else provides, the chances are that our precious services are not going to be represented well by you either.
So Ladies, lets turn up the temperature and really Hot Seat!!
Here are some tips that I have used that make Hot Seating the special occasion that it truly is:
1) Read the minute thoroughly. You may not have met her so look at her website and read it thoroughly. Understand her message and the type of person she is. When you stand up to represent her, if you have to read her words, imagine it’s in the same tone and style that she would put across. Step into her shoes. And say:
“Today Marilena” I am going to be……” and mean it!
2) Be creative. I represented Penny Bennett in Islington last week. I have only met Penny once but knew her group liked her a lot. So I stood up and said, ‘Imagine that you can see Penny standing here right now. Have you got the image of her in your mind? Can you see what she is wearing, how she is standing? Now give me some words to describe Penny”. And the group said, “stylish, elegant, well put together, someone I’d like to look like” and more. The group created Penny for themselves in the room. It was then easy for me to point out that Penny, who is Personal Stylist, walks her talk because even if she isn’t there, she is known and remembered for what she does.
3) Seek group Interaction. Another way of representing a member is to first tell the group ‘who you are being’ and then ask “who here has had a ‘one to one’ or used the services of …… ? Get one or two people to share a ‘one sentence’ experience of the lady you are representing’. Then finish by saying ‘so if you want to experience (whatever it is that she offers) look no further’.
That’s just three ways and I’ll bet you can think up so many more creative ways to help each other ‘be there’, even when they are not.
Ladies, we owe it to each other to be the best representatives that we can be for each other’s businesses.
If we cannot do it for each other, how can we expect others to do it out there in the world for us?
I don’t know about you, but if someone asks me to Hot Seat for them in 2011, I want them to be absolutely sure its really gonna be really Hot Hot Seating!!
Francine Kaye is The Divorce Doctor and Britain’s Leading Relationship Coach, TV Expert and Author of ‘Time to Live’ and ‘The Divorce Doctor’ published by Hay House.
Her website is www.thedivorcedoctor.co.uk